Have You Changed?

Last week, I went out to Dallas to listen to Glennon Doyle speak to a fairly large group of local women. It was GLORIOUS and AWESOME, in my humble opinion. Glennon was funny and engaging and I felt truly connected to her. I also saw a friend who happened to be in town from Maine- whom I had not seen in over 6 years. I don't know what I was expecting, but I know I wasn't expecting to answer such difficult questions during what felt like a VERY long drive home. I wasn't expecting her questions to still linger, days later.

Good grief. "Do you feel you have changed, darling? Because, I feel you have changed. Are you Happy?"

Oh. My. Goodness. ARE YOU SERIOUS?

Be honest. Are you the same person you were 7 years ago? Are you the same person you were 15 years ago? The same young lady you were sophomore year? Really. Are you? Can I tell you what I realized on that ride home? I realized it was a hard and twisted question to ask me while driving, and more so, to have me admit it out loud.

I have, in fact, changed. I am VERY different than the woman she remembered. Once I admitted it, I smiled and let out a sigh of relief. THANK GOODNESS I have changed. Thank goodness.

For example, today, I am a bit more patient. I wait on longer lines without huffing and puffing. I. Have. Kids. and couldn't possibly get away with being as impatient as I was in my twenties and still "patiently wait" for my kids to buckle up, put their shoes on or finish their breakfast. Getting in or out of the car, crossing the parking lot or choosing the ONE toy they earned for good behavior would have sent the 20-year old me off the deep end. So, I am patient now. HOURS. HOURS of being patient.

I took notice that I am a better listener, too. I take turns to speak and I listen more intentionally than ever before. That is a great relief for the little voices tugging at my ears for attention and mic time. How would I hear what is on their minds and in their hearts if I hadn't slowed down the chatting to listen?

I don't call out. I can't call out! I can barely get sick! And even if I am sick, I cannot call out! This is it. This is more than a job- these people really really depend on my NOT CALLING OUT.

I read more, eat healthier, dance to a different song (does Frozen count?). I drive more carefully, double check a lot and explain more (goodness, a lot more). I am more open minded, worry a bit more and plan more efficiently. I work hard to be prepared and am more flexible when things don't go as planned (like a blow out; a diaper blow-out is never part of the plan). I am less rigid - I have changed because my priorities have changed. I have changed because my expectations are different and because my entire LIFE is different.

In this life - like most of you- I have been burned, I have been cheered for, I have been hurt and loved. I have lost a child. I have buried loved ones and moved away from all I know. I have tripped and fallen on my words- I have stumbled on my actions. I have changed. These experiences have helped me change. And, I have carried on. How in the world was I expected to stay the same? And honestly, who in the world would want to? Some might say that these kids "broke me down." I loudly and proudly say it is the opposite. These kids have helped to build me up. These kids have helped me to evolve and grow. This experience of motherhood has made me crazy in all the right ways.

I have evolved. I have grown. I am stretched in ways I never imagined- sometimes to the point of intensity and discomfort. I am tired- holy crap I am tired- but I AM HAPPY. I AM HAPPY I HAVE CHANGED, because that 'sometimes- crazy- girl from the college dorm sophomore year' or that 'could-be-very rigid sales exec from just a few years ago' would NOT be the most suitable fit for all of the stretching, waiting, and listening I am having to do around here!

Change is inevitable. I will embrace it and evolve- and I will remember fondly all the phases of this thing called life. Because really.... Who wants to be a crazy college kid forever? I will carry on.

In the words of my friend, Glennon... #CarryOnWarriors


Carly Alacahan

Welcome to GCS Moms League, 2017-2018!

It's going to be a great year. The board is working tirelessly to make this year a memorable one in which our children and families will thrive within the supportive arms of GCSML. I couldn't be more proud to be part of such an amazing group of women.

This year, my family celebrates three years in Texas- and the million times the 'all-knowing-definitely-smarter than I am' grandparents said, "Time Flies," they were far from kidding, if only I had known. So many of the adages I heard when I became a mother have held true, though they were initially met with an eye roll and some resistance.

"Time Flies," as they said.... Is one of them. "Don't wish your days away," "It takes a village," "This too shall pass," "To understand your parents' love, you must raise children yourself," "Home is where the heart is," "Like father, like son" (ouch) and countless others. I admit that the one that is most relevant here TODAY is the one specific to the village. Having moved here only three years ago with no family to count on made a village more important and more necessary than I ever dreamed- and for this village, I am most grateful.

I am not alone. In fact, a great number of the moms in our league are also transplants looking for their "village." And we, you and I, we are the makeup of the village- at least a part of it. It turns out that the village isn't only for the help with our children and parenting advice, but this village is also for the help and aide of our HEARTS. We have so much in common and it is that common thread that has brought us here. Whether it be the desire to get out of the house to do something other than work, or compare notes on what is or isn't okay with our two-year-old... to discuss our health, our parents or our husbands- we come together. We look across the room for that inviting gaze that says.... "yes, I get YOU!"

In working more closely with these other mothers of the village recently, I also have learned so much. I suddenly feel like a part of something larger than myself, I feel the pride that settles in the hearts of those working together to move a project along. A group of women who won't just comfort each other should a plan go awry- but who will also revel in the celebration when we jointly achieve SUCCESS with the partners, the village, who have been by our sides throughout this motherhood journey.

I would ask that we all think of these words, "It takes a village," as we move forward as members of the Mom's League this year. I ask that you consider becoming a part of the quilt, of the fabric that will make this year a memorable one. We are so grateful for this village, welcoming local moms and transplant moms- new moms and experienced moms- stay at home moms and drive to work moms. Because it is the makeup of these different patterns that will make our beautiful quilt one for the treasure chest.

I can't wait to "village" with you-

Welcome to our GCS Moms League 2017-2018!

Carly Alacahan

First General Meeting of the 2016-17 Year

We are ready to kick off another fantastic GCS Mom's League Year with our first General Meeting of 2016-17 on Friday, September 9th! 

We've got a great speaker, some fabulous sponsors, and a tasty breakfast lined up.  Please come join us for a morning of Mom-friendly fun!

General Meeting Info:

Friday, September 9, 2016 at 9:30 AM 

First United Methodist Church

1000 Church St.


Meetup link:  https://www.meetup.com/GCSMomsLeague/events/233729214/

September's Speaker:

Laura McClellan, host of "The Productive Woman" podcast



Laura McClellan is a lawyer, a writer, a productivity enthusiast, and a tech geek. Married for 37+ years to her high school sweetheart, with whom she's raised five amazing kids, she's passionate about encouraging women in their individual journeys as people, wives, mothers, citizens. 

A big thank you to this month's meeting sponsors:

2016-17 Membership is now OPEN!

It's that time of year again! Time to renew your GCSML Membership.  New to Mom's League?  This is the perfect time to join! 

GCS Mom's League has a little something for everyone.  While our membership is predominately stay-at-home-moms with younger children (infants to pre-schoolers), we also have many members with school-aged children as well as working moms.  

We have monthly general meetings with fun and informative speakers, ladies night out, playgroups, holiday parties, and much more! Join today to get membership benefits all year!